There is no "ready-to-adopt" test kit, blood test, nor "pee stick" for paper pregnancy. There is no clear moment of conception, no tell-tale physical changes that occur, no morning sickness. No ultrasound, no feeling a baby move inside you. My journey is a little different.
People decide to adopt a child for different reasons. Commonly it's infertility that leads people down the adoption path. Sometimes it's a single person who is ready to be a parent but doesn't have a partner with whom to produce a child. Other times it's couples of the same sex who want to experience the joys of parenthood.
For us it's pretty straightforward. We wanted to give a home to a little one who would otherwise grow up in an orphanage. Both of us knew we'd be fulfilled and overjoyed if our child joined our family through adoption. Nope, I don't feel like I'm "missing out" on anything by not having a biological child. If I did I doubt the choice would have been as easy for us as it was.
Our child won't grow under my heart, but grows within it. This Little One that we haven't met, whose gender we don't even know. Who right now is probably sleeping in their little crib, thousands of miles away. Our love for you couldn't possibly be any more tangible, any more real, even if you were growing inside of me. We've just been waiting a lot longer than 9 months to meet you.